Civil Liberties Through Economic Empowerment
When I was offered the chance to speak here today in front of you about gay tourism, all I could think of was the major economic opportunities and trade benefits this idea could bring about for the LGBTQ community, thereby opening the gates to economic empowerment.
Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen, today I would like to present my ideas on the topic; Civil Liberties Through Economic Empowerment. Through my talk today, I would like to present one idea as to how I think, and history stands as evidence, that major and long lasting social changes for any minority community can come mainly through economic empowerment.
The same idea gives me the belief that it is important to be financially independent and empowered for the LGBTQ community to fully materialize their goal of not just mainstreaming and tolerance, but heart felt acceptance and much desired and deserved respect. I think economic growth of and from the community will be one of the major ways we will be able to win our rightful position within our societies.
I would like to make my case based on the following two observations:-
- My own life; and
- Economic self-interest that manifests itself in trade can do wonders; it almost motivates the traders to look beyond, and sometimes even understand, the differences in each other’s accidental identities of religion, ethnicity, and language and in our case it would be sexuality.
So, I’ll start with my story first. Even though I am firm believer in democracy and freedom I am not going to be apologetic about the family and wealth I was born in. Born in a family like mine, we were never raised and educated to find jobs. We were just expected to look after our heritage property and maintain our farms and recently also fight the court cases we were born out of internecine feuds. The twist came in my life when I decided to come out as a homosexual individual, well that’s what I was called in the Media. Rajpipla na Rajkumar Samlaingik che, said one of the newspapers. When I came out in 2006, I in no time realized that I was India’s first openly gay royal. I have never regretted it, but now when I look back at the incidents I realize, I had no clue of the consequences. Suddenly what struck me after being dis-inherited publicly was that I had to get a job. But what job could I possibly do? I was already running my NGO, Lakshya Trust. But for those who know anything about running an NGO, they know it doesn’t give you money enough to go back to your princely ways of living. After a period of uncertainty and confusion I decided that I had to concentrate on what I had and start utilising the resources I was left with.
After a time, I was sure that I could get financially independent on my own so that gave me a lot of confidence. Belief in myself became my most valued and useful currency. When my parents realized that they can’t legally dis-inherit me from my ancestral wealth, freezing it for the time being was the second best option available to them. I don’t blame them; they were under pressure from the members of other and our own royal families. Since by now, I already had a financial plan for myself, the hurt caused by my family’s treatment of me was largely just emotional. I just felt unpleasant because I was being discriminated because of my sexual orientation. Yes, if I was dependent on my family fortunes then I would have had the other reason to worry. Even though my title has taken me to places So for me my economic empowerment actually helped me in my “coming out” process. Even though today my family issues, largely speaking, have been resolved and I have access to the ancestral wealth, I have decided to be on my own as far as my finances are concerned. I can utilize my wealth the way I want rather than being alleged by the royal house of mis-appropriation of their wealth.
I make my living as an organic farmer and live my life on my terms. 75% of my income goes to charity for funding my organisation, Lakshya Trust which works mainly for HIV prevention amongst the MSM and TG population and especially for gay rights and our empowerment. I always advice my gay friends who don’t want to succumb to marriage pressure that they should 1st become financially self-reliant. Most of us, who don’t want to get married to women, get pressurised since we live with our parents and depend on them for a living. We become victims of emotional blackmail from parents if we are in the joint family business. Even for attending today’s Symposium, I had to request the organisers to sponsor my trip and they have been kind enough to do so. Every penny earned by me is valued since I have put an effort for it and I would like to utilize it on charity for the gay population through Lakshya. I can fight for gay empowerment merely because I am economically empowered.
Second point I want to make today is this, we need to understand a very crucial aspect of economic growth, the one of social power which comes with and as a consequence of economic growth, makes people want to know more about you and understand you better. This wish and desire to understand each other’s motivations, intentions and frame of references in order to do business with each other is very crucial, and we are in dire need of it. It will help clarify some of the myths which come as a part and parcel of anything “new and alien.” This will increase our visibility. I always think if we are not visible whose rights are we fighting for.
Look around you the way humans engage in economic trade with each other. No matter how much money has been demonised, misunderstood and irrationally pursued, it still has the power to give people that required nudge to get over the bump of prejudice. People are more willing to set aside their differences which are caused due to their frame of references with which they view the world. Suddenly, the possible problems due to people’s accidental identities like religion, caste, sex or sexuality don’t matter so much.
So I conclude that efforts like these are of utmost importance to us as a community. I see gay tourism not only creating making a statement about the significance of our place in the mainstream society, but also creating safe spaces for the community members to be themselves and that too not only in places like Mumbai, but also in smaller cities like Udaipur, Jaipur, Hyderabad, Pune and the like.
Before I go, I just want to say that all of this would be possible only if we as individuals of the LGBTQ community have a belief in our abilities to deal with life, thereby exuding high self-esteem.